Attachment: what is it and why is it important in relationships? Why do therapists talk about it? Why do Parent Educators love it?
We, humans, are hardwired for attachment to others. Our brains are wired together through experiences with other people. What fires together wires together is a scientific motto. And what fires is created by and through experiences. Who, what, how we interact with our children wires their brains in different ways. Leading to different learnt behaviours and understandings of how people will love and care for us. These patterns are brought into adult relationships, whether they are healthy or unhealthy. How we do 'relationships' falls under emotional intelligence (EQ) and our EQ influences our IQ and life success. Basically a stronger EQ = higher IQ = greater life success.
There are four attachment styles that have been researched and found many times over. They are Secure, Ambivalent, Avoidant and Disorganised. We obviously all want secure and most of us get that but the other three are occurring at disturbing rates (for me anyway). I've put together a pdf on attachment styles and how they are created, simply download from below.
After reading if you think you have one of the insecure attachment styles because of your upbringing, Thrive can providing support for you to make your current relationship better and if applicable your parenting more fulfilling and enjoyable with the massive side benefit of creating a more secure relationship with and for your children.
If you read this and feel uncomfortable about the relationship your children have with you or another parent, please contact us as we adore working with families and parents.