Family therapy, links beautifully with relationship therapy for me because they both are about how we relation to each other, how we understand and listen to each other, how we ask and meet each others needs. I adore working with families to create harmony, shared memories and successful lives, whether that be nuclear families, blended, separated, foster or however you define family is perfect and beautiful.
I'm a trained Circle of Security Facilitator and designer of Me, You and We Parent Education program. I have a primary school teaching degree, two young boys and have been parented, so understand parenting struggles.
"We mammals share attachment, the need for a close relationship between parent and offspring to connect and protect, to soothe and attune." Dr. Dan Siegel
How I work with families and children: I take two options and work with you decide which path we take. 1) Family Therapy: I take an approach to family therapy linked with interpersonal neurobiology which has shown for decades that the Me (us as parents), the You (our children) and the We (our family) are all interdependent. One influences the other and the other influences back. I work with ME, the parents to discover their Me and how that is influencing the family system. How we parent is linked with how we were parented, and the issues we are experiencing with our children can be a reflection on skills we missed out on receiving from our parents. There are skills and solutions available to support you in being the totally awesome and successful 'good enough' parent that your kids need you to be. I work with YOU, the kids to discover their manual, how their lacking skills to cope with life and the situations they are feeling overwhelmed and stuck within (which is evident to us parents as shyness, explosiveness, tantrums, anger, sleeplessness etc). I help them gain skills that support their emotional regulation and emotional intelligence. A clincher though and why I adore working with families, is that, connection and relationship is a magic pill to the family struggles. They need you to continue the skills training we provide in sessions at home....this will bring you the relief and resources you have come here looking for. Which leads to the We, the family. We need to be whole, complete, and integrated individuals to make the whole (family) functional, thriving and successful. The Me and You, finds more meaning, happiness and success by joining and belonging to a We.
"Relationships are the most important part of our having well-being in being human. It’s that simple. And it’s that important." Dr. Dan Siegel
2) Child Therapy: in comparison to the above option, this is where your child and I just work together to overcome their struggles and find their strategies to lead to a happier more successful life. I adore helping children, who are experiencing anxiety/separation anxiety, fears and struggles with their parents divorce or separation, explosive expressions of anger and frustration, parents who have addictions, struggles with emotional regulation and friendships, to name just a few issues. The therapy approach when I work with children, is really dependent upon the child and their preference. It could be talk therapy, art or play therapy/sandplay therapy.
"We connect and empower. We thrive in good enough. We voice and meet needs. We teach, learn and respect. We love first and express all our emotions responsible." Jessie
I consciously utilise attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology and being good enough in my personal life with parenting my two delightful boys. I practice what I preach...I consciously utilise the same principles with your children and family, that I use in mine.
Join the Thrive family in being good enough and with a wonderful toolbox filled with skills to create your great life success for you and your kids. Contact me today.